#6

I'm sick of physics right now, so

#6. Be observant

Pay attention to detail. Can you remember how she laughs, the way she looks when she's stressed, that smile that says it all?

Subconsciously, we (like well-tuned radars) tend to pick up a few of these. But for those who don't, it's time to open your eyes. It's in a woman's natural instinct to read body language, to listen to words unsaid, to observe tones and signs. But men? Have to try harder.

Remember in 500 Days of Summer?

Tom said: It's official - I'm in love with Summer

I love her smile, I love her hair, I love her knees. I love how she licks her lips before she talks, I love her heart-shaped birthmark....

You get it.

So, being observant means all of that and more. And why should you? Well, for one, it's a process of getting to know her better, to find out what unique quality you fell in love with. And then, everytime you doubt, or hesitate, remember that quality. Two, you will discover the art of communicating without words.

In Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, there's a chapter on "speaking different languages."

When women say, "You don't love me anymore", you may angrily respond: "WHAT? I don't love you? Is that what you think? Fine. If that's what you want..."

But hey, take it... non-literally. If you've picked up her signs, she may well be saying: "I know deep down how much you love me and I really do appreciate the things you do for me. But today, I'm feeling down and a little insecure... Cheer me up? And reassure me?"

Your other half is unique, so don't take my word for it. There's no hard and fast rule (like if she's quiet she's angry).

When i'm silent, I'm usually stopping myself from saying something I'd regret later on. Or some days I'm quiet because I just want to listen. When I quicken my pace, walking ahead, I'm angry, stubborn and upset. Following that, Sherwin follows, and apologises.

Because he knows.

So moral of today's lesson: Be alert to the itty bitty things.